12 days ago, I lost my father.
May Allah have mercy on him.
It’s been really tough.
I’ve been having a hard time grieving.
Grief will make you feel like the world has stopped.
Even while life around us keeps moving.
Grief can feel very heavy and lonely.
Whether it’s losing a loved one or going through a big life change.
But there’s one thing for sure;
Feeling grief doesn’t mean your Imaan is weak.
Even our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ grieved deeply.
He shed tears, mourned losses, and still turned to Allah with patience and trust.
Grief may bend us, but it doesn’t have to break us.
It can surely make our Imaan stronger.
With sabr, tawakkul, and dhikr, we can find healing and even Barakah, through our pain.
Here’s what I’m trying to keep in mind as I navigate through this grief.
Understanding Grief in Islam
In Islam, grief is recognized as part of the human experience.
It’s not something to hide or “get over quickly.”
When we love someone or something and it’s taken away, it’s natural for our hearts to ache.
The Prophet ﷺ cried when his son Ibrahim passed away, and he said: “The eyes shed tears, and the heart is grieved, but we do not say except what pleases our Lord.”
He also grieved the passing of Khadijah (RA), his uncle Abu Talib, and many companions.
From his example, we learn this: feeling sadness doesn’t mean your Imaan is weak or that you’re failing to accept Allah’s decree.
Crying, missing someone, or feeling loss is human.
What Islam teaches us is to carry that grief with dignity, without despair, without questioning Allah’s plan.
When we say “Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un” (Surely we belong to Allah, and to Him we shall return), it reminds us that nothing is truly lost; we will return to Allah, and so will those we loved.
Spiritual Anchors in Times of Grief
When grief feels overwhelming, Islam gives us gentle anchors to hold onto:
- Tawakkul (Trust in Allah): Remembering that Allah’s plan is always wiser than ours, even if it’s hard to see right now.
- Sabr (Patience): Patience isn’t about bottling up emotions. It’s about leaning on Allah instead of despairing.
- Dua and Dhikr: Small phrases like “Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un” or “HasbunAllahu wa ni’ma al-wakeel” can bring comfort when words fail.
- Qur’an as Healing: Verses like “Verily, with hardship comes ease” (94:6) remind us that pain isn’t forever, ease will come.
Practical Ways to Cope with Grief Islamically
Grief is both spiritual and emotional.
Here are some simple ways to walk through it with faith:
- Allow yourself to feel. It’s okay to cry, journal, or take time to rest.
- Give Sadaqah Jariyah. Do a small act of charity in the name of a loved one, or as a way of turning pain into something beneficial.
- Hold onto prayer. Even when it feels hard, prayer gives you grounding and routine.
- Lean on your community. Talk to family, friends, or sisters who can hold space for you.
- Avoid isolation. Grief is heavy, and it’s not meant to be carried alone.
Finding Barakah in the Journey of Healing
It may feel strange to connect grief with Barakah, but there is wisdom here.
Grief softens the heart, reminding us that this life is temporary and that our true home is in the Aakhira with Allah.
When we turn our sorrow into dua, sadaqah, and closeness to Allah, that’s where the Barakah comes in.
The pain may remain, but it transforms into something that pushes us closer to Him.
When Grief Becomes Overwhelming
Sometimes grief doesn’t ease with time.
It can linger and affect your daily life.
If you find yourself feeling stuck, constantly overwhelmed, or unable to cope, please know this: seeking help is not a lack of faith.
Speaking to someone you trust can be a form of self-care and a means to healing.
Islam encourages us to take care of our hearts, bodies, and minds.
Conclusion
Dear sister, grief is not a weakness.
Every tear you’ve cried has been seen by Allah.
And every ache in your heart is known by Him.
Healing takes time.
But you don’t have to rush it.
Hold on to patience.
Lean on remembrance.
Trust that Allah’s mercy is bigger than your pain.
And remember: this dunya is temporary.
But Jannah is forever.
The reunion awaits.
A Dua for the Grieving Heart
Ya Allah, heal the hearts of those in pain, replace their sorrow with peace, and grant them comfort in Your remembrance. Bless their patience, increase their faith, and reunite them with their loved ones in Jannah. Ameen.
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